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I recently started up a photography business and announced on social media that I'm taking clients. Several friends reached out to me for bookings, but they insist that I should shoot at a discount, or free. How do I gently tell them that the best way to support my business is by paying full price?
A large group of my friends and I rented an Airbnb, and the host requested that we please do this one tedious and smelly cleaning chore before we left, "if [we] can." I was strongly against doing this chore, and I held my ground in a long argument. Did I overreact?
So I just turned 30, and I still can't drive. What's the best way to explain this to my friends? Is it weird and bothersome that I always need a ride?
My friend asked me to look over his novel, and I have some Opinions about it. Is it possible to be critical of his work and also preserve the friendship?
My friend and I were very close in grad school, but drifted apart after we graduated six years ago. Because we've been out of touch, I was surprised to be invited to her recent wedding. I accepted, but the day before, I realized I couldn’t put on a smile for a reunion that I wouldn't feel part of. Did I make the right decision?
My friend has discovered White Liberal Youtube, and it's pushing all of his friends away, including me! He believes his newfound opinions are correct because he's "thinking about the issues and [we're] not." But as a marginalized person, "the issues" are my everyday reality. How can I make clear to him how much damage he is causing?
I took a semester off from undergrad to be with my family during a difficult time. Now, all my friends are graduating. I feel like I'm about to lose them, and it's all my fault. How do I stay in touch?
I have religious dietary restrictions, and some of my friends have been pretty crappy about it. How should I handle being the odd one out in a social group?
Is it okay for friends to shift away when we aren’t in the same classes? I have been friends with these people for a few years, but now we don't see each other as much. Is it normal to miss them?
Two people in my friend group had a big fight after years of tension. One wants to make up, and the other doesn’t want to have any contact. What should I do here?
I'm fixated on one friend who doesn't seem as invested as I am. In fact, I find myself obsessing about our level of communication. I feel caught in this loop of waiting to be talked to, and sending messages that don't always get replies. How can I get unstuck? Here's an episode about investing in YOURSELF. Also introducing Susan, Trin's new Texas neighbor. Content warnings for discussion of COVID and therapy.
I've realized that I’m bisexual. I am intensely afraid that if I come out, my friends will suspect that I had crushes on them.
I broke up with my ex, but we're amicable, and still living together. My friends don't get our situation. How can I make them understand it's all good?
So I... didn't really keep in touch with my friends. For the last year. Much at all. Are they going to pissed at me when I reach out?
A friend from work recently moved into the area. She's lonely, and she's latching onto me. What can I do to help her NOT rely on me for social interaction?
How can I politely exclude a friend from a group hangout without harming our individual relationship?
One of my friends is just way too sensitive lately. I like to joke a lot, and she feels like everything I say is aimed toward her. How do I tell her in a nice way, not everything is about her?
I'm leaving a toxic roommate situation that has left me deeply wounded and hurting. How do I communicate my needs to my next roomie as clearly as possible?
I like to keep my social life and work life separate, but my coworkers are overwhelming me with their friendship. How can I politely convince them to leave me alone?
A rad teen listener asks: My friend keeps dumping her emotions on me. How can I help her get the care she needs?
Extroverts in the pandemic. Much like dark matter, our calculations suggest that they must exist, but we've had no hard evidence or firsthand accounts... UNTIL NOW. Our asker wants to know if she should just give up and move on from her less-active friendships. What's a socially starved extrovert to do? This week we also discuss writing exercises, Trin's scalp, and how deeply angry we are about the question we're going to answer next week.
Tale as old as balls: All of your friends really love doing ONE THING together, and it's the ONE THING that you simply do not want to do. Today's asker is tired of playing the often stressful online game "Among Us." Sounds like it's time again for stating some needs and boundaries! We'll also cover alligator attacks, Mario Kart, and the interesting fact that all children's screams sound the exactly same, whether they're having fun or being chased by a lion.
No matter how cool you may be (and we're pretty sure you're super cool), every human being in history has experienced rejection. This week, our asker wonders if it's worth reaching back out to a group of friends who removed her from their ongoing DnD game, but does not consider that she herself may have done something wrong. Interesting!
Today’s asker brings extremely relatable content: How can I be in touch with my friends, without actually expending the energy to have a conversation? We’ll discuss leaving “love packets” for your pals, the benefits of living underground, and how impressive it is any time you can give even a small amount of time to someone you love.
I haven't heard from my friend in a long time. Like: a lonnnng time. Are we still friends? This week, we discuss how equally valid all of the following options are: giving up, giving up for now but then trying again later, or trying now and giving up later.
How do I maintain friendships if I have a very, very limited social battery? This week we discuss how to keep yourself charged while still putting in the work and being a supportive, loving friend. Content warnings for discussion of diagnosis, brief mentions of depression, PTSD.
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