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My friend has discovered White Liberal Youtube, and it's pushing all of his friends away, including me! He believes his newfound opinions are correct because he's "thinking about the issues and [we're] not." But as a marginalized person, "the issues" are my everyday reality. How can I make clear to him how much damage he is causing?
I took a semester off from undergrad to be with my family during a difficult time. Now, all my friends are graduating. I feel like I'm about to lose them, and it's all my fault. How do I stay in touch?
I have religious dietary restrictions, and some of my friends have been pretty crappy about it. How should I handle being the odd one out in a social group?
Is it okay for friends to shift away when we aren’t in the same classes? I have been friends with these people for a few years, but now we don't see each other as much. Is it normal to miss them?
Two people in my friend group had a big fight after years of tension. One wants to make up, and the other doesn’t want to have any contact. What should I do here?
I'm fixated on one friend who doesn't seem as invested as I am. In fact, I find myself obsessing about our level of communication. I feel caught in this loop of waiting to be talked to, and sending messages that don't always get replies. How can I get unstuck? Here's an episode about investing in YOURSELF. Also introducing Susan, Trin's new Texas neighbor. Content warnings for discussion of COVID and therapy.
I've realized that I’m bisexual. I am intensely afraid that if I come out, my friends will suspect that I had crushes on them.
I broke up with my ex, but we're amicable, and still living together. My friends don't get our situation. How can I make them understand it's all good?
So I... didn't really keep in touch with my friends. For the last year. Much at all. Are they going to pissed at me when I reach out?
A friend from work recently moved into the area. She's lonely, and she's latching onto me. What can I do to help her NOT rely on me for social interaction?
How can I politely exclude a friend from a group hangout without harming our individual relationship?
One of my friends is just way too sensitive lately. I like to joke a lot, and she feels like everything I say is aimed toward her. How do I tell her in a nice way, not everything is about her?
I'm leaving a toxic roommate situation that has left me deeply wounded and hurting. How do I communicate my needs to my next roomie as clearly as possible?
I like to keep my social life and work life separate, but my coworkers are overwhelming me with their friendship. How can I politely convince them to leave me alone?
A rad teen listener asks: My friend keeps dumping her emotions on me. How can I help her get the care she needs?
Dear Friendshipping: my book club sucks these days.
Extroverts in the pandemic. Much like dark matter, our calculations suggest that they must exist, but we've had no hard evidence or firsthand accounts... UNTIL NOW. Our asker wants to know if she should just give up and move on from her less-active friendships. What's a socially starved extrovert to do? This week we also discuss writing exercises, Trin's scalp, and how deeply angry we are about the question we're going to answer next week.
Tale as old as balls: All of your friends really love doing ONE THING together, and it's the ONE THING that you simply do not want to do. Today's asker is tired of playing the often stressful online game "Among Us." Sounds like it's time again for stating some needs and boundaries! We'll also cover alligator attacks, Mario Kart, and the interesting fact that all children's screams sound the exactly same, whether they're having fun or being chased by a lion.
No matter how cool you may be (and we're pretty sure you're super cool), every human being in history has experienced rejection. This week, our asker wonders if it's worth reaching back out to a group of friends who removed her from their ongoing DnD game, but does not consider that she herself may have done something wrong. Interesting!
Today’s asker brings extremely relatable content: How can I be in touch with my friends, without actually expending the energy to have a conversation? We’ll discuss leaving “love packets” for your pals, the benefits of living underground, and how impressive it is any time you can give even a small amount of time to someone you love.
I haven't heard from my friend in a long time. Like: a lonnnng time. Are we still friends? This week, we discuss how equally valid all of the following options are: giving up, giving up for now but then trying again later, or trying now and giving up later.
How do I maintain friendships if I have a very, very limited social battery? This week we discuss how to keep yourself charged while still putting in the work and being a supportive, loving friend. Content warnings for discussion of diagnosis, brief mentions of depression, PTSD.
My roommate films the whole damn apartment when he’s on Discord. Is it normal to have Good-Smelling Room Spray in your bathroom? Cohabitation in the Age of COVID is tricky, but we’ve got special guest co-host Billie Bullock to help sort us out!
We found the only people on Earth who are consistently, meticulously getting ready for Zoom calls, and they are driving this week’s asker a little bonkers. Let us discuss this rare species and how to handle it when your friends look so perfect that it’s starting to give you feelings.
Alone time: a precious commodity in these trying times. How can I ask for and receive alone time when I'm stuck inside an apartment with two other adults 24 hours a day? This week, we'll discuss creating conditions that work for you and your housemates, just locking the freakin bedroom door already, and Trin's "two-hour long" Jimmy Eat World Greatest Hits Playlist (which in reality clocks in at 2 hours 57 minutes).
"My neighbors in having parties, not wearing masks in our apartment common spaces, and in no way following pandemic protocol. What can I do?" We've got some ideas to kick around. One involves laminating! Also, Jenn has a realization, and Trin takes a bathroom break. Content warnings for COVID; brief mentions of death and aging.
A listener wants to know how to best support her friends right now, even as she is feeling bad herself. This one's about managing the rage, ADHD coping mechanisms, and what you can do for yourself between therapy sessions.
"I’m staying home because COVID, but my friends are not. What can I do?" This week, everyone we know is staying home and not breathing on anyone, including the wonderful person who asked today’s question.
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