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How can I politely exclude a friend from a group hangout without harming our individual relationship?
One of my friends is just way too sensitive lately. I like to joke a lot, and she feels like everything I say is aimed toward her. How do I tell her in a nice way, not everything is about her?
I'm leaving a toxic roommate situation that has left me deeply wounded and hurting. How do I communicate my needs to my next roomie as clearly as possible?
I like to keep my social life and work life separate, but my coworkers are overwhelming me with their friendship. How can I politely convince them to leave me alone?
A rad teen listener asks: My friend keeps dumping her emotions on me. How can I help her get the care she needs?
Dear Friendshipping: my book club sucks these days.
Extroverts in the pandemic. Much like dark matter, our calculations suggest that they must exist, but we've had no hard evidence or firsthand accounts... UNTIL NOW. Our asker wants to know if she should just give up and move on from her less-active friendships. What's a socially starved extrovert to do? This week we also discuss writing exercises, Trin's scalp, and how deeply angry we are about the question we're going to answer next week.
Tale as old as balls: All of your friends really love doing ONE THING together, and it's the ONE THING that you simply do not want to do. Today's asker is tired of playing the often stressful online game "Among Us." Sounds like it's time again for stating some needs and boundaries! We'll also cover alligator attacks, Mario Kart, and the interesting fact that all children's screams sound the exactly same, whether they're having fun or being chased by a lion.
No matter how cool you may be (and we're pretty sure you're super cool), every human being in history has experienced rejection. This week, our asker wonders if it's worth reaching back out to a group of friends who removed her from their ongoing DnD game, but does not consider that she herself may have done something wrong. Interesting!
Today’s asker brings extremely relatable content: How can I be in touch with my friends, without actually expending the energy to have a conversation? We’ll discuss leaving “love packets” for your pals, the benefits of living underground, and how impressive it is any time you can give even a small amount of time to someone you love.
I haven't heard from my friend in a long time. Like: a lonnnng time. Are we still friends? This week, we discuss how equally valid all of the following options are: giving up, giving up for now but then trying again later, or trying now and giving up later.
How do I maintain friendships if I have a very, very limited social battery? This week we discuss how to keep yourself charged while still putting in the work and being a supportive, loving friend. Content warnings for discussion of diagnosis, brief mentions of depression, PTSD.
My roommate films the whole damn apartment when he’s on Discord. Is it normal to have Good-Smelling Room Spray in your bathroom? Cohabitation in the Age of COVID is tricky, but we’ve got special guest co-host Billie Bullock to help sort us out!
We found the only people on Earth who are consistently, meticulously getting ready for Zoom calls, and they are driving this week’s asker a little bonkers. Let us discuss this rare species and how to handle it when your friends look so perfect that it’s starting to give you feelings.
Alone time: a precious commodity in these trying times. How can I ask for and receive alone time when I'm stuck inside an apartment with two other adults 24 hours a day? This week, we'll discuss creating conditions that work for you and your housemates, just locking the freakin bedroom door already, and Trin's "two-hour long" Jimmy Eat World Greatest Hits Playlist (which in reality clocks in at 2 hours 57 minutes).
"My neighbors in having parties, not wearing masks in our apartment common spaces, and in no way following pandemic protocol. What can I do?" We've got some ideas to kick around. One involves laminating! Also, Jenn has a realization, and Trin takes a bathroom break. Content warnings for COVID; brief mentions of death and aging.
A listener wants to know how to best support her friends right now, even as she is feeling bad herself. This one's about managing the rage, ADHD coping mechanisms, and what you can do for yourself between therapy sessions.
"I’m staying home because COVID, but my friends are not. What can I do?" This week, everyone we know is staying home and not breathing on anyone, including the wonderful person who asked today’s question.
My friends are stressed. Can I tell them to take a break from the news cycle? Our answer is yes, no, maybe, and sometimes! Here's an episode about absorbing the world's crap like a Bounty paper towel.
This week: we're here, we're very tired, and we're discussing envy between friends. What if you and your friend want the exact same darn thing, but your friend is coming by it much more easily than you are? Also: Jenn speaks on behalf of the humble apple, and Trin puts their foot down for perhaps the very first time.
We're back, we're online, and we're not entirely sure if we remember how to talk to people. Let's find out! This week, an asker wonders: When should I switch therapists? How do I know if this therapist is The One? We're here to give you our hottest therapy tips, appreciate one another, and read from our upcoming book. Content warnings: The first nine minutes revolve around coping with existential dread, loss, and social distancing.
What is the right thing to do? What should you do when you tried to do the right thing, but ended up doing the wrong thing? We hope you’re in the mood for a good, deep cringe! After Animal Crossing and plants banter, we detail some choice moments when we really screwed the heck up, and how we made amends and recovered in the aftermath. CWs In banter (first 14 min): Humorous/cartoon skeleton, death, fake murder mentions. After banter: Racism, social mistakes discussion. Trump admin mention. 9m20s: Humorous 9/11 mention. 34m50s: Mention of Trump’s history of sexual assault. Dismissal of social injury, pussy hat discussion.
The first asker is caught between two friends going through a sudden divorce, oh no! The second asker isn't freaking out about COVID, and can't understand why everyone else seems to feel differently. Hm!! Most importantly, we want to know: Why do all men go through a phase of hitting each other in the testicles? Aaaa!!! CWs: - Discussion of testicles and kicking them, first ten minutes of the show. - Discussion of divorce, death throughout show. - Big death mention at 27m20s, big climate change mention at 37m00s. - Poop mention, eating poop mention 27m20s
Sometimes, you just need a little more. We’re here to help you figure out how to effectively ask for it. How can I get my friends to talk freely about their guilty pleasures? What can I do to encourage my buds to initiate more conversations and online hangouts? In personal news, Jenn has started Animal Crossing, and Trin waxes poetic about her Wonder Woman emotions. Content Warnings: - Food mentions around 7m00s, 7m50s, and 18m18s. - COVID-heavy second question. - Occasional joking references to porn starting at 14m08s. - Death mention 19m43s.
First up: “I was out on leave and I’m worried my coworkers are resentful that I’ve been gone. What can I do to feel less terrible about this?” Then, “I feel closer to my coworkers through this pandemic trauma. Is this why hazing works?” Around Friendshipping Headquarters, Jenn just started playing Animal Crossing, and Trin can’t stop screaming. Big week all around for everyone. Production note: Trin is wrong; Spanish Flu was not our most recent pandemic. But she is correct that we did not have The Internet back then. CWs: Discussions of COVID and hazing
Today on this here podcast, it’s all about being polite on our favorite utopia simulator, Animal Crossing. What’s the tea on Blood? Do you leave a tip for big gains on the Stonk Market? Why is my friend sitting motionless on a log? Whew! Now that we got that out of our collective system, we’ll be back on Thursday with your regular friendship programming.
“My friend mailed me $50. She’s the worst, right?” This week, Jenn wonders if there’s a gas leak, Trin deeply mispronounces “Oregon,” and neither of us can quite wrap our brains around an asker who feels grievously wronged by a sorta disappointing wedding gift, I guess. Thank goodness, the second question is about Animal Crossing (but is applicable to the other social tech that we now rely on for human interaction). CWs: Queerphobia, and money are discussed at length. COVID mentions.
Is it okay to like having time off from work? Jenn and Trin tell you the hard truth about enjoying your life. We also get down with house envy, the box full of personal shame that lives in everyone’s home, and empathizing with your bored house cat on a level you never thought possible. CWs: Discussion ADD/ADHD spectrum. Brief, sudden masturbation mention when we read the first question.
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