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Do you HAVE to be friends with your partners friends? No, you do not. Look, some friendships just aren't meant to work out. Just people are meant to be polite acquaintances and that's A-OK. This episode is about deciding not to struggle through a makeshift, forced relationship. You have enough to worry about. Content warnings for discussion of insecurities!
An annoying person from the asker's high school past is showing up to Christmas Eve! So, yes, it is true that this episode did become posted by us two days after the advice could be useful. Enjoy! CWs - Religion mention: 4m49s Food discussion: 7m26s - 9m04s; dinner party mention throughout
This one's about people who flake. Some friends just don't show up when they say they will. Some friends are unreliable. When's the right time to cut the cord and move on? Let's discuss! Please note: content warning for discussion of parent death.
A question older than Father Time: Can I be friends with my ex? SHOULD I be friends with my ex? In this case, we're here to give you a resounding and loving "no."
A listener wants to know how to be a better roommate, especially because her roommate is too midwestern to say what they need! Meanwhile, Jenn & Trin go places they have never been before. Stick around to the end for this one, folks. Content warnings: around 33:00, the word penis is mentioned roughly 500 times.
"I am going to be a bridesmaid next year for a friend. The problem is, this friend has some very offensive things about another friends of ours--like doubting her struggles with suicidal thoughts and depression." This one's about handling (or NOT HANDLING) a friend who is being incredibly unkind! We also dive into that Twitter thread about the template. You know the one! (Content warnings for broad discussion of mental health, depression, suicide.)
This week, we tackle: "I'm in a group chat and one of the participants has blocked me. We used to be friends, but we're not any longer. I hate that she thinks I'm toxic because I'm not the same person I was back then." Some people don't want to be your friend. This hurts. This sucks. No denying that. But fortunately there are about 8 billion other people on the planet. Here are some thoughts on moving on from mistakes, learning, growing, you know the deal. Content warnings: discussion of misgendering around 4:00 minute mark.
"My friend's boyfriend won't leave me alone on Instagram." This episode is literally about someone sliding into your DMs. Listen as we become physically and emotionally overheated! Content warnings for discussions of harassment and misogyny.
Collaborating with your pals! Sometimes it goes poorly! The question: “I was working on a professional project with my friend. She completely botched the deadline and really let me down. How do I move forward from here?” Counter question: How do we get Jimmy Eat World on our show? Content warnings: 5:02 mentions of fetish, racism. 17:30 animal death, environmental distress. 34:30 balls!
"I have a friend who brags about himself constantly. Every other conversation he starts is about how desirable, intelligent, or successful he is." We've got follow-up questions, such as: "What's it like to have positive self-esteem?" and "So which coast are you from?" Some advice snuck itself in there too.
What if you don't like the person your friend is dating? Can you speak up? Let's discuss the many shades of this very common and confusing topic. Plus. intriguing update on the snail front! Content warning for light sexual content throughout. Gross bug from 9m40s to 10m46s.
Trin is mad online, Jenn finally meets Trin’s snails, and capitalism ruins the party yet again. What can you do about friends who continually try to entrap you into selling crap (makeup, jewelry, Tupperware, sex toys, etc) with them?
Trin cleans off her fire escape, Jenn unloads her feelings about her former neighbors, and together your humble narrators make a stabbing attempt to answer this question: How do I decide who to be friends with? Who is worth investing my time in? Strong language warning for 7:40 to 8:12. Thank you to a listener for sending us pins from your Esty shop! https://www.etsy.com/market/juniper_moon
Jenn shares what is delighting her this week, Trin manages her snail eggs, and a listener writes us to ask if it's OK that she doesn't have or want friends because she just is too exhausted between work and parenting. Is friendship even worth the effort? What if you just don't have energy to socialize? Can you just not have any friends? Is that bad? Is that OK? Do you want to name our book or what?
Great question this week. A listener asks, "How do I know when I'm wanted in social situations? How can I tell?" We've got first-hand insight into this one, as well as snail eggs, night lotion, and hey, do you want to name our book for us? Please and thanks!
A listener brought a friend into her D&D group. New friend is not really acclimating so well. In fact, the other folks want him out! How can you smooth things over here? Should you even?! Content warning for mention of death at 28:27.
A listener wrote us and said they made a bunch of positive life changes and now feel like they need to leave their old group of friends. But first we want to ask: are you sure you should do that? Content warnings: discussions of prisons, brief mention of violence
Best friends, college buds, road trip friends... you can be all of these things! Or none of them! This week, a listener wrote in after they took a hard look at a decades-long friendship and found that it just wasn't what he thought it was. Their old friend just doesn't initiate convos or hang-outs or seem to love them quite the same! Let's discuss having friends who don't treat you quite as you hoped. (Content warnings for brief mention of blood. Raw-doggin’ snails. Trin singing Marvin Gaye instead of Al Green.)
A listener lended out her favorite kitchen mixer to a friend who has not given it back. And this friend now also has a crush on her! We love this question very much. We also love snails, sharks, the ocean, fish tubes, all of it, everything.
Scooters are all the rage! And by that we mean, they're making us feel rage. This week, we heard from a listener who wants to know how to move on from a past hurt: years ago, her friends didn't give her the help she asked for. What now? What do?
Jenn got married, Trin's snails are happy, and a listener loves to play board games with her friends but is feeling a liitttlee uneasy about how she keeps losing at them. Allow us, two certified losers, to help you with this. [Content warnings 2m41-56s - sex mention; 7m17-25s climate emergency mention. Food mentions throughout intro. We throw around “stupid” a lot in this episode.]
Jenn has a nemesis, Trin's snails continue to enjoy their retirement, and a listener wants to know how to make friends and connections online--because their boss wants them to. Uggghhh.
What do you do when you think a friend is crushing on you? Do you speak up? Let it go? We have thoughts. Trin’s snails are doing well btw.
What do you do when you meet a new friend who seems great, but then plants a few red flags? Do you write them off completely? Does anyone want some snails?
A listener doesn't want to be chummy with their new colleagues. We understand! We're also going to challenge you juuust a little, though. Content warning for discussions of social biases, brief mention of racial stereotyping.
Jenn's softball team is being bullied online, Trin visits a spa, and a listener asks how to adjust their inner monologue so they can be be kinder to themselves and their friends. What a lovely idea. You're doing the right thing with your face, by the way. Content warnings this week: discussions of body, fitness, self-esteem.
This week, we heard from an awesome listener who wants to support a friend who is receiving bad treatment from her family for being gay. Strong content warnings for homophobia, discussion of religion. We threw in "levity breaks" to add a little laughter back into this stupid world. Timestamps below! Cancer Mention Start time: 1m35s Duration: 4s Being Gross about the word "Engorged" Start Tim3: 3m19s Duration: 6s Levity Break #1 Start Time: 15m21s Duration: 3m45s Levity Break #2 Start Time: 28m20s Duration 2m12s ANGRY BREAK: Straight Pride Start Time: 33m44s Duration: 3m22s Levity Break #3 37m04s Duration 1m50s
If a friend is visiting the city you live, are you supposed to show them around? Let them crash on your couch? Skip work to hang out together? Really, what are your obligations as a host? We've got answers to this and also quick mentions of vomit from 4:00 to 6:00, feel free to skip that part.
A few dedicated listeners asked us to lighten things up and talk about ourselves for some reason. Careful what you wish for. This week, no advice. Instead, plants, sinus infections, some new projects we're working on(!!!), and finally, FINALLY, we grapple with cinematic masterpiece Detective Pikachu.
Let's get META. Our first asker wants to know the best way to ask us a question without giving away their identity, so we went through some best practices when asking us for advice. The next asker is about to embark on the journey of therapy, and wants to know how to do therapy correctly. CW: mention of animal death, mention of penis injury. If you don't care to hear our animal stories, skip to 12m57s for advice.
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